Anger Management Children - 8 Ways To Help Them!
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Can you imagine a stereo without speakers, or a computer with no keyboard? They are both ineffective and useless...that's what many parents and teachers of anger management children are like when they try to solve their child's anger: ineffective and useless. When you are done reading and doing what this page says, you will be neither, but you will be several steps closer to having your child understand and manage his anger.
Anger management children are blessed that they have someone to try and help them understand what is happening and how they are to deal with it. They are especially blessed if the help that they get is knowledgeable and adequate. What is now being understood more and more is that people who don't manage their anger when they are children and grow into adults still angry tend to have disastrous young adult lives.
A lot is riding on how a child learns to manage his anger.
What you should do.
When dealing with anger management children, you want to let your child know that it is alright for him to get angry. He should not be made to feel as if he is bad for getting mad.
He needs to know that everybody gets angry, big people too, and that when he is big he will do the same thing.
But you also need to let him know that it is not alright for him to do bad things when he gets angry. He should be told that he can't fight, he can't scream, and he can't sulk. The goal is to make sure that he does not grow up with these unhealthy ways of expressing his anger.
One of the best ways to get your child to understand what anger is all about is tell him stories that describe anger and its good solutions. To do this, you can either make up a story, or you can look for books and videos on the subject to help him.
How to help him.
There are a number of things you are going to do to help your child manage his anger.
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How to help him continued.
First, you will help him to understand when he is angry. This may sound like a high level activity, but anger management children learn to control themselves in the same way that adults do.
He will learn that when he is angry he will be breathing heavier, he will feel tightness all over his body like clenching his teeth and squeezing his fists. He will also learn that when this happens he will also have bad feelings about someone and may even want to do something that would hurt them. A child can understand this; and you will be the one to teach him.
You also want to help anger management children identify what is upsetting them.
Now you should know that if you were to just ask a child why he is angry chances are that he will not be able to tell you. If this is the case, you will have to help him figure out what is bothering him. One way to do this is to let him draw a picture of the story. Get him some paper and crayons and let him draw out the story for you.
Once you have your drawing then try to talk some more about it.
Three best things.
There are three things that you can do to help anger management children and if you do them, you can think to yourself that you have done something worthwhile.
The first is to model the way you want him to act when he is angry. Children watch what you do and they use this as pointers for what they do when they feel the same way. When you are angry, do what you want him to do when he is angry. He will notice this, and learn your behaviors from it.
Opposite to this, you must make a special effort to keep his eyes and ears away from the examples of anger that you want him to avoid. Children only take four hours to learn how to model angry actions. He will learn this from watching the bad examples of anger in the people around him, from watching television, and even from playing video games. Bad examples are all around him.
You should also learn anger management exercises, strategies and techniques. The reason for this is that if your child is going to learn how to manage his anger, you are the best person to teach him.
Another thing you want to do is pin point specific examples of his anger and tell him how to deal with it. For example, when someone takes something that belongs to him, he is not to fight them for it. If they won't give it back to him when he asks for it then he is to tell someone like the teacher or whoever is in charge.
Lastly, when you see him acting right and controlling his anger, make sure that he knows that you see it, and are happy that he is doing it. It would also be good to give him a special reward for doing so.
A lot of people with anger management children think that the anger will never be under control, but that is not the truth. Just keep your head in the game and do what you should and you will beat this problem.
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